Christmas at Home

(Originally posted on The Bilerico Project)

Martin Gill and his partner have been raising two foster children in Florida since December 2004.  When a judge terminated the parental rights of the boys’ biological parents in 2006, Martin, with the help of the ACLU, moved to adopt them.  While the state of Florida allows gay people to be foster parents, adoption by gay people has been banned for over two decades.  On November 25, a juvenile court judge granted Martin’s adoption request, striking down the ban on gay adoptions in Florida.

I guess we've always been big on celebrating Christmas. Two weeks before Christmas in 2004, we got a call from the Department of Children and Families. They asked us to take in two more foster kids. I said no, as we were planning to move to Georgia, and I didn't want to take in kids if they'd have to be uprooted again because of our move.

The social worker said they just needed a place for about a month, as a family member had agreed to take them, but first had to go through an approval process. I still said no. She said we were the only home in the agency with any space left. Then she said, "I bet you could give them a really nice Christmas."

I knew she was right; we could give them a great Christmas. The story of Joseph and Mary being turned away from the inn, flashed through my mind. For us, Christmas had never been a time to turn away those in need and I really hated the thought that these two might have to spend Christmas in a shelter.

"Okay, we'll take them—but only if they're temporary." I said, thinking of the house we had just bought in Georgia.

They arrived two hours later, with nothing more than the clothes on their backs—even those clothes were dirty, tattered and didn't fit.

On Christmas day, there were 20 people over for dinner. By that evening, they had filled the kids' closet and their dressers with new clothes.  The playpen, which we made into a makeshift toy box, was now overflowing with new toys. It made no difference that the case worker had said their placement was for only one month—they couldn't have been treated any more like family had they been our biological kids.

To that end I am grateful for our generous family and friends, who have always been supportive of our decision to foster and more recently to adopt. And in return, our friends know they never have to spend Christmas alone. They can always come spend it with us and the kids.

What was supposed to be a temporary placement in 2004 is now a big part of what we call our family. Because of these boys, we sold the house in Georgia and made the choice to stay here in Miami. With the adoption approved, we have so much to be thankful for this Christmas. We'll be celebrating it right here at home with family and friends. It will be our fifth big Christmas with these two boys we now call our sons.

In this year of market melt-downs and layoffs, we have decided to put an emphasis on helping others in need. We are volunteering this year with Angels Everywhere (a part of our church, Unity on the Bay). While people are often generous with donations for the little kids, teenagers often come to toy giveaways and go home empty handed (or get toys intended for much younger kids). So my partner has been working diligently with our foster agency to get some gifts especially for the teens there. Our three kids will be there helping to give out gifts, in hopes that they too can learn the joy of giving.

And isn't that the reason for the season?

Immediately after Martin’s adoption was granted, Florida’s attorney general filed a notice of appeal.  To find out more about the case, watch a video of the Gill family and keep up on the latest developments, visit

Something to Be Thankful For
VICTORY: Florida Law Barring Gay People from Adopting Ruled Unconstitutional
Decision Tomorrow in Challenge to Florida’s Ban on Adoption by Gay People

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liberal hater

No, the reason for the season is Jesus Christ or did you secular, God-hating, ignorant, left-wing liberals never read the Bible. Oh, that's right, you humanist were busy trying to eradicate the Bible from the public square with your tiresome lie about seperation between church and state, which is found nowhere in the Constitution.

Oh, by the way I'm surprised to see that homosexuals celebrate a Christian holiday seeing as how they don't believe in the way that God set up a REAL family i.e. Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve.


marriage between one man and one woman , hasent hiv killed enough gays to make them stop , it is a gay desease , anal sex

liberal hater

I see that you bunch of leftwing liberals are not only cowards but hipocrits. You say that you stand up for the 1st amendment but if a conservative post an entry on your site you censor, I mean delete it.

So we can't criticize sodomites i.e. fags and dykes on this site. Don't worry, you all will spend eternity in hell.

Sodomites suck, literally. Ha, Ha.


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