Marriage Matters to Us

Ten years ago in March, Lisa and I were first in line when Multnomah County issued marriage licenses to same-sex couples. We married immediately in our church, with our ministers, blessed with the presence of friends.

Ten years ago in November, voters approved Measure 36, an amendment to our state constitution denying the freedom to marry to Oregon's same-sex couples. Shortly thereafter, the Oregon Supreme Court ruled our marriage invalid.

Lisa and I took down the framed marriage license from our wall.

Much has changed over the last decade. A majority of Americans now support the freedom to marry, including 55 percent of Oregon voters. In 17 states and D.C., all loving couples can marry, and Oregon now recognizes those out of state marriages. But I still cannot legally marry Lisa in the state we call home.

We want to get married because we have loved and cared for each other for over 30 years; we have raised two wonderful children together; and because marriage is an important milestone for us.

Today, the ACLU is in federal court in Oregon to fight for the principle that no one should be subjected to discrimination merely because of who they are and who they love. Our opponents are trying to slow down or stop the march toward freedom, but the ACLU is there fighting for all of us – and I am proud that Lisa and I are part of this court case fighting for our family. And, though it has been a long journey, history is on our side.

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Anonymous

Saying that marriage is between a man and a woman is not discrimination. That fiction was concocted by the left in order push its agenda. Ditto for "war on women." Ditto for "war on the poor." Left/ACLU game plan: Make up a name so that we can call those who disagree with us bigots or racists or haters. That way you don't have to mess with stupid ideas like "free speech."

Anonymous

"Our opponents are trying to slow down or stop the march toward freedom...."

Really? Last I checked nobody was in court to make the case for the ban. You would think that would be the Attorney General's job, but she has sacrificed her oath of office to her personal policy preferences. I am so gonna laugh if this ends up backfiring, and the judge rules he can't strike down a law that hasn't been vigorously -- or at least adequately -- defended.

Anonymous

Anonymous #1 - people like you - who have the inability to treat others as equals - be it because they are a different gender, a different class, a different race, or a different orientation - are what is wrong with this country.

I won't call you a bigot, or a racist, or a hater - but I will call you a waste of oxygen.

Anonymous

"Saying that marriage is between a man and a woman is not discrimination." is not discrimination you are right, however excluding same sex couples from marrying is discrimination....

"That fiction was concocted by the left in order push its agenda." for 'push its agenda' read 'feed into my paranoia'....
Ditto for "war on women." Ditto for "war on the poor." (ditto)

"Left/ACLU game plan: Make up a name so that we can call those who disagree with us bigots or racists or haters." these are not made up words and if the cap fits!

"That way you don't have to mess with stupid ideas like "free speech." ....free speech is never a stupid idea, you are using it now!

Anonymous

Above comment needs fiscalizerea attached: Warning, comment made by asshole and Dors not reflect reality!

Anonymous

Saying that marriage is between a man and a woman is a matter of your own personal opinion, and the personal opinions of those who agree with your opinion.

Interestingly...the gay and lesbian community aren't interested in interfering with, or rendering heterosexual marriage invalid, or illegal. Heterosexual couples will continue to enjoy THEIR rights and protections under the law.

It's WAY past time for gay and lesbian couples to enjoy EQUAL rights and protections under the law. If a gay couple, or lesbian couple wish to marry their own true love...how does this affect anyone else?

I'm heterosexual, and I've been married to my husband for 33 years and counting. Neither our marriage, nor our family, nor our personal daily lives are threatened in any way shape or form by the prospect of gays and lesbians marrying.

J.Gordon - proud LGBTQ ally.

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