Amber Heard: I Spoke Up Against Sexual Violence and Faced Our Culture's Wrath

This piece was originally published in The Washington Post.

I was exposed to abuse at a very young age. I knew certain things early on, without ever having to be told. I knew that men have the power — physically, socially and financially — and that a lot of institutions support that arrangement. I knew this long before I had the words to articulate it, and I bet you learned it young, too.

Like many women, I had been harassed and sexually assaulted by the time I was of college age. But I kept quiet — I did not expect filing complaints to bring justice. And I didn’t see myself as a victim.

Then two years ago, I became a public figure representing domestic abuse, and I felt the full force of our culture’s wrath for women who speak out.

Friends and advisers told me I would never again work as an actress — that I would be blacklisted. A movie I was attached to recast my role. I had just shot a two-year campaign as the face of a global fashion brand, and the company dropped me. Questions arose as to whether I would be able to keep my role of Mera in the movies “Justice League” and “Aquaman.”

I had the rare vantage point of seeing, in real time, how institutions protect men accused of abuse.

Imagine a powerful man as a ship, like the Titanic. That ship is a huge enterprise. When it strikes an iceberg, there are a lot of people on board desperate to patch up holes — not because they believe in or even care about the ship, but because their own fates depend on the enterprise.

In recent years, the #MeToo movement has taught us about how power like this works, not just in Hollywood but in all kinds of institutions — workplaces, places of worship or simply in particular communities. In every walk of life, women are confronting these men who are buoyed by social, economic and cultural power. And these institutions are beginning to change.

We are in a transformative political moment. The president of our country has been accused by more than a dozen women of sexual misconduct, including assault and harassment. Outrage over his statements and behavior has energized a female-led opposition. #MeToo started a conversation about just how profoundly sexual violence affects women in every area of our lives. And last month, more women were elected to Congress than ever in our history, with a mandate to take women’s issues seriously. Women’s rage and determination to end sexual violence are turning into a political force.

We have an opening now to bolster and build institutions protective of women. For starters, Congress can reauthorize and strengthen the Violence Against Women Act. First passed in 1994, the act is one of the most effective pieces of legislation enacted to fight domestic violence and sexual assault. It creates support systems for people who report abuse, and provides funding for rape crisis centers, legal assistance programs and other critical services. It improves responses by law enforcement, and it prohibits discrimination against LGBTQ survivors. Funding for the act expired in September and has only been temporarily extended.

We should continue to fight sexual assault on college campuses, while simultaneously insisting on fair processes for adjudicating complaints. Last month, Education Secretary Betsy DeVos proposed changes to Title IX rules governing the treatment of sexual harassment and assault in schools. While some changes would make the process for handling complaints more fair, others would weaken protections for sexual assault survivors. For example, the new rules would require schools to investigate only the most extreme complaints, and then only when they are made to designated officials. Women on campuses already have trouble coming forward about sexual violence — why would we allow institutions to scale back supports?

I write this as a woman who had to change my phone number weekly because I was getting death threats. For months, I rarely left my apartment, and when I did, I was pursued by camera drones and photographers on foot, on motorcycles and in cars. Tabloid outlets that posted pictures of me spun them in a negative light. I felt as though I was on trial in the court of public opinion — and my life and livelihood depended on myriad judgments far beyond my control.

I want to ensure that women who come forward to talk about violence receive more support. We are electing representatives who know how deeply we care about these issues. We can work together to demand changes to laws and rules and social norms — and to right the imbalances that have shaped our lives.

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This is the same woman who attempted extortion of Johnny Depp, by threatening to go to police unless he gave her $100,000 , use of his condos and a car. When he refused, she filed a restraining order. Then she had to hire a defense attorney for their divorce, because extortion is a felony, and she faced 30 years in prison. Then she claimed she'd give her entire divorce settlement to charity, but when Johnny wrote the check directly to the charity she refused.

Paola J

I 100% agree with you ! Well said


She would have been a nobody but her nasty divorce with allegations of abuse brought her attention and that’s how she got on “aqua man”. She can thank Johnny Depp for that

Rick Lowry

Amber, I'm so sorry about the horrible treatment you had to endure... You are so beautiful and talented, just love watching your performances in many movies, especially the one w/ Costumer. I'm glad your confronting your demons, sadly there has to be consequences for standing up for yourself... Bunch of damn pigs.. I'm really proud of you. A forever loving fan... Rick.


When u turning in? U confessed to be the abusive one in court and also pleaded guilty on ur DV arrest


Cool it with the anti-Semitism. Jewish men were exponentially over represented in the #MeToo debacle.


She's also a KNOWN Abuser (plus lied about it) and Is awful to female on female violence victims.
Stop feeding into her lies if you actually care about victims


Stop the press
That news reporter said he told me to come in his office I heard stories about him she said
He told me to close the door .THEN HE TOLD ME TO TAKE OFF MY SHIRT ...
So I did ....
I'm so sorry but I can't help but to scream why the f@$& like a bad scary movie
Would you do that .. commonsense would tell anybody to run but she didn't
NOW WHY....I know why it's a game of thrills high power man or woman it's a challenge
But get real she had all the time to walk out I know some situations are not like that
My heart goes out to them but.....the ones who knew harvey guy was a dog
And went there anyways come on NO ONE can say it was worth it or maybe it was worth
The money ???? A quicker way to reach the top ???? But what the hell they knew
Everyone knew in Hollywood all the stars every one has a brain to make that choice
Walk the hell out .... but no no
Finally let's talk rap stars theres tons of stories where they used woman like
Crap I can name 5 or 6 rappers and singers that have or acted like pimps
Evern record companies
Even in sports from college to pro
Hell even the entertainment companies in Vagas
The songs that are and we're out there playing on the radio lots of bad things
Harming females hitting them tossing them even drugging them
Even today's female singers are saying stuff that would make the older generation


No thanks, I prefer my role models without mug shots.


What she fails to understand is she received "wrath" because she was caught in several pieces and ran from depositions. She did, in fact, ruin her career. She's just too blind to see it.


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