Griego v. Oliver - Plaintiff Profiles

March 21, 2013

> Miriam Rand and Ona Lara Porter
> Rose Griego and Kim Kiel

Miriam Rand and Ona Lara Porter

Together 25 Years

Miriam Rand and Ona Lara Porter

Miriam, 63, is the owner of Family Matters: Adoption Resources LLC. Ona, 66, is the president of Prosperity Works, a non-profit that focuses on eliminating poverty, building assets for the poor and changing the racial, gender and class inequities in all areas of life. The couple met when Ona was working with the Coalition for Children and Miriam was doing postgrad family therapy. Miriam became interested in poverty work, several people told her Ona would be a good person for her to get to know, and they hit it off. They have three adult daughters. They have also adopted their 14-year-old granddaughter, who suffers from cerebral palsy. She had originally been adopted by their middle daughter, but she has multiple sclerosis and her condition deteriorated to the point that she could no longer be the primary caretaker.

They jointly cared for both their mothers when they were dying, and were faced with "next of kin" and "family only" challenges when both of their mothers died within a year of one another. They had to lie, saying that they were sisters to be admitted in some situations and to make medical decisions in others. In 2010, Miriam's sister underwent chemotherapy for breast cancer and Ona took off 10 days from work to go to St. Louis to care for her but, because Miriam and Ona's relationship is not recognized in New Mexico, she had to take it as vacation time.

Rose Griego and Kim Kiel

Together 8 Years
Santa Fe

Rose Griego and Kim Kiel

Kim, 44, is a financial advisor with an independent private practice. Rose, 47, is an part-time business manager for a nonprofit organization and the owner of an accounting consulting business. Kim has two sons from a previous relationship.

Once when Rose was hospitalized, medical staff refused to provide Kim with any information on her condition even though she was the one who brought her to the hospital. It wasn't until Rose's family arrived that Kim was able to participate and get any information, and that was only after Rose's brother convinced his parents to include Kim. After that scare, they had legal powers of attorney and other documents drawn. They carry these document around with them wherever they go in a large binder. These legal services cost the couple more than $3,000.

Rose and Kim held a commitment ceremony in 2010, attended by friends and family, but they also hope to be married someday in the State of New Mexico.

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